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… my lesson in trusting myself

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Do you think that trust is one of the most important things in any relationship?

I have been beginning to think that ‘trusting YOURSELF’ every single time, is the most important thing… nothing else really matters.

A recent experience demonstrated that to me….

Those who follow my blog noticed that about four months ago I changed my name from ‘LoneWolf Harmony’ to ‘Lunar Wolf Harmony’.

You might also have noticed that my posts dramatically reduced at this time.

I pondered the name change long and hard, for years actually, before making the change, and I was finally swayed, by the opinion of a wonderful, caring soul.  A person who I have a great deal of time for and respect of, as well as a heathy dose of admiration.

However, with the name change, came a loss of interest in being ‘LunarWolf’ or ‘LoneWolf’

Then just the other day, I was chatting with a close friend and we were talking about the importance of teaching our young adults to TRUST themselves FIRST.

As the conversation continued, she asked me, why I wasn’t putting much on my blog lately… I explained the ‘whole name change thing’ and she looked at me and said… ‘you didn’t trust yourself first did you?’.

So as confusing as it may be for my followers, I will be re claiming my name ‘LoneWolf Harmony’

Thank you my friend, I will TRUST myself FIRST and you can expect more posts and other exciting things on my blog now.

Peace, harmony and love to all

LoneWolf

Tips for living with lies

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I have posted a couple of articles about the impact of people within our circle telling lies.

We know that we can’t change other people’s behaviour

We know that honesty and trust is important to us

Do we discard the friendship or relationship because of the lies?

Nearly 95% of people will say yes… But it might be your child that is telling you lies

So what do you do?

Here are a couple of little tips

  1. Ask yourself… Is there evil intent in the lie?
  2. Ask yourself …Does that lie threaten me, or harm me?
  3. If the answer to the above questions are “No”, then let the lie pass you by. Don’t give it any power.
  4. Last tip…. It has long been accepted that you ‘shouldn’t check up on others’.  However if you need to check up on someone who is lying to you, DON’T feel guilty.  As long as your intention is only for your own sense of safety and your own peace of mind.  Ask around, check if she is at the parent teacher meeting when she said she would be, or that your son really is having a sleepover at his mates.  DON’T let it become an obsession and DON’T use it as a power tool or control method over others. Just do it for your own peace of mind.  Over time, it will help you to answer the first two questions with clarity and make ‘living with a liar’ possible and peaceful for you.  Trust in yourself and it doesn’t matter about trust in others.

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

 

Living in a world of liars

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Is there someone in your life that lies?

Everyone tells little white lies… So it probably applies to us all.
Knowledge and understand helps…. Check this out….

Peace and harmony to all

LoneWolf

Why do lies hurt?

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How do you react when you discover that a loved one has lied to you?

I was raised to believe that all lies are bad and the only reason someone would lie, would be for dishonest reasons…..

It makes me laugh that at 50 odd years old…. I am now learning to look at lies differently.

Whilst I have spent my life preaching that honesty is the most important thing in a relationship and that all lies are to hide something bad from you…. Iam remembering back and to my discomfit admit that I have lied to people very close to me.  These lies where ‘lies by omission’, but none the less they were lies. They were lies to protect myself, but none the less they were lies.

So I had to decide, does that make me a bad person, or does my paradigm surrounding lies need to be re-evaluated???

Then I got it….. My lies were never with evil or dishonest intent!!!

Now I make that my new observation when I discover a lie.  I ask myself ‘was it told with evil or dishonest’ intent?’

It may even be helpful to ask that question of the person who lied to you… It will help with your understanding and trust of them.

Lies don’t need to mean the destruction of trust, they can provide the platform to deepen trust.

Peace and harmony to all

Lone Wolf